Photo of a woman persuading: Unlock the secrets of persuasion with 'Women Who Persuade: Navigating Success in Every Sphere of Life.' Learn seven powerful tips for persuasion and reap exciting benefits today!

Women Who Persuade: Navigating Success in Every Sphere of Life

Unlock the secrets of persuasion with ‘Women Who Persuade: Navigating Success in Every Sphere of Life.’ Learn seven powerful tips for persuasion and reap exciting benefits today!

When was the last time you had to persuade someone?

Maybe you needed to ask your team member or leader for something, or resolve a problem with a service provider?

Maybe it was a pitch to a potential new client who could really benefit from your product or service?

Was it when your children forgot to make their beds or needed to do their homework?


Interestingly, from one day to the next, despite the huge number of times we need to ask someone for something in a day, most of us don’t think of ourselves as ‘persuaders.  Most people think of persuasion as something for people in politics or the United Nations. Maybe you think persuasion is for lawyers and talent agents, people like Tom Cruise’s character (the sports celebrity agent in Jerry Maguire) shouting, “Show me the money!”


Actually, if you think about it, we persuade people every day.  When we need or want something, we must get the attention, the support and the endorsement of our families, our stakeholders, our staff, our suppliers, our managers and our clients. Persuasion is pervasive, whether we are conscious of it or not and regardless of the name we give it.


What is Persuasion?

Persuasion is the ability to alter or sway an individual’s thoughts, beliefs, or actions.  When you understand the process of persuasion, you’ll know how to maximise your power moments (the moments in a relationship or interaction when you are best able to get what you want), whilst creating and maintaining trust.


And here’s the key…. first-rate persuaders fulfil their personal objectives while building and then maintaining trust, rapport and respect. There’s nothing cheap, manipulative or underhanded about effective persuasion. It’s an ethical process that relies upon integrity, trust and long-term relationships.

Successful People know how to Persuade

The proof that successful people know how to persuade lies in their consistent ability to achieve their goals and influence their stakeholders positively. Successful people often possess strong communication skills, allowing them to articulate their ideas convincingly and gain support for their initiatives. Their track record of accomplishments, whether in business, leadership, or other fields, reflects their effectiveness in persuading others to align with their vision.


Persuasive people make others feel good

When you’re in a discussion with a persuasive person it feels like they have your best interests at heart. And people always walk away from a persuasive person feeling terrific, like they’ve just had the most rewarding moment. Persuasive people make other people feel good!


Anyone can be a master persuader! 

And the good news is that I’ve seen first-hand, anyone can learn to be persuasive. It’s simply a series of techniques that you use one after the other to ensure your stakeholder feels they have freedom in their decision making, while they are giving you what you want. 

Here are 7 tips to help you to be even more persuasive in your life:


Tip # 1 Believe in yourself 

The saying goes: “Where there is a will, there is a way.” The mindset of knowing you will reach an agreement requires you to eliminate all negativity from your environment. This is very contagious! No matter how the stakeholder responds, keep it light and maintain a ‘can-do’ attitude throughout the persuasion. When you let negative thoughts occupy your mind there is only one outcome and it’s not good.


Tip # 2 Be sure your desired outcome is reasonable

Work out what you want and make sure your desired outcome also serves the needs of your stakeholder. When persuading, ensure your outcome is reasonable, because no matter how good your persuasion, if your desired outcome is unreasonable, your stakeholder will always say, ‘no’ to you.  


Tip # 3 Know your audience

Power persuaders truly believe that they can satisfy their stakeholder’s needs. They see the benefits, features, and limitations of their product, service or request from their stakeholder’s view. They weigh-up things on the stakeholder’s scale of values, not their own and they can pitch their solutions accordingly.


Tip # 4 Prepare your message

It’s critical to identify and understand the impact and diversity of different strategies and styles available and the impact they have. In general, an effective persuasion process generally has an opening that builds rapport, a middle that asserts your perspective, and a close where you call your stakeholder to action. And yes, you need all three of these elements for your persuasion to work!


Tip # 5 Build Rapport

Rapport, rapport, rapport. Before you can persuade others, you must first build rapport with them. We like people who are like ourselves. This means, from the first word you say, make sure your voice, body and language patterns reflect the similarities between you and your stakeholder rather than any differences.


Tip # 6 Connect through Eye Contact and Smiling

Connect with the audience with your eyes and your mouth. When it’s time to influence get your focus off yourself and look at them in the ‘whites of their eyes’, really see them, whether it be one person or one thousand people. And smile authentically while you’re at it. Alicia Grandey’s smiling research in 2005 found a direct correlation between authentic smiles and an increase in persuasion. Conversely Grandey also found the more inauthentic the smile, the less effective the persuasion.


Tip # 7 Ask for what you want!

People are not mind readers. Be explicit when asking them for the thing you want and be sure to articulate the next steps clearly. Depending on the scale of your persuasion it can be really important that you get your agreed outcome in writing. In some cases, you need to assertively get the ‘yes’ from your stakeholder out loud. Take a pen to important persuasion situations so you can write important things down and even sign them if necessary.


You can do it!


Remember, it doesn’t matter how good your business is, how good your products or services are, how good your ideas are or how good your message is if no one’s listening.  Anyone can be a power persuader – simply learn what to do and do it. Improve your persuasion skills today and reap the exciting benefits!


Happy Persuading! 

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©2024 MICHELLE BOWDEN is an authority on persuasive presenting in business. She’s run her Persuasive Presentation Skills Masterclass over 995 times for more than 13,000 people over the past 25 years and her name is a synonym for ‘presentation skills’ in Australia.

Michelle is a multi-million-dollar pitch coach to her client list that reads like a who’s who of international business: banking and finance, IT, pharmaceutical, retail, telecommunications plus many more.

Michelle is the creator of the Persuasion Smart Profile®, a world-first psychological assessment tool that reports on your persuasive strengths and weaknesses at work, the best-selling internationally published author of How to Present: the ultimate guide to presenting live and online (Wiley) and her new book is called How to Persuade: the skills you need to get what you want (Wiley)3

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