how to overcome fear of public speaking

How to overcome fear of public speaking

Do you want to overcome your fear of public speaking? You’re not alone! Most people feel anxious or nervous before speaking in public. For many people, this anxiety can extend to formal team meetings or presentations to colleagues, even if such events occur regularly.

If you are one of the many people who feel nervous before a presentation, you will probably know that this nervousness can present itself in a variety of different forms. Symptoms can be as mild as sweaty palms, dry mouth, blushing or a thumping heartbeat, through to physical illnesses such as shakes, vomiting or diarrhoea (to name just a few!). 

Dealing with nerves as a public speaker

No wonder public speaking is considered to be up there with some of the greatest fears in the world! These awful symptoms can significantly reduce the amount of enjoyment you derive from communicating at a high level with others.

Well it’s time for some good news. Presenting can be fun! Managing nerves is mostly to do with your approach, regardless of whether you are presenting at work or to a huge conference audience.

Fight or flight

In 1915, the concept of fight or flight was developed by Dr Walter Connon to describe an animal’s response to threat. Essentially you can think of it like this: when you are feeling nervous and faced with stress (presenting is very stressful for many people) you have two choices:

1. Fight it. You can fight it, in other words, you can soldier on and push through your discomfort to beat the feeling. If you fight, you can make the most of the opportunities that present, and step up and be heard so people know what you are capable of.

2. Run away. You could choose to flee, that is, you could run away, avoid presenting, and delegate the job to a colleague. If you flee you will avoid the conflict, but you will also pass up the chance to showcase your professional expertise so no one will know what you actually think or feel about the subject and you may find yourself being passed over for future opportunities.

Couple this understanding of ‘fight or flight’ from Dr Connon with a concept described by Dr Hans Selye, who discovered and documented the fact that as humans we experience two main kinds of stress. Dr Selye called them distress and eustress.

Distress is the bad or negative kind of stress that weakens and disables you.

distress or feeling stressed

Eustress is a positive or good stress that enables you and makes you powerful.

The main way to turn your distress into eustress is to use the power of your mind and your self-talk, and reframe in your mind that you are a strong and confident presenter and you will do a great job today.

Don’t even think about picturing your audience naked!

You can use a number of excellent techniques to reduce your nerves and increase your enjoyment when presenting, and they don’t include imagining your audience naked! What a laugh! I’ve been told stories time and time again of presenters who were told by their boss to imagine their audience naked, and they either froze on the stage or felt more nervous than ever. 


Related post: 5 Tips to Keep In Mind When Planning Your Next Public Speech


In fact, unbelievably I overheard a mother advising her 5 year old to imagine everyone naked (this was the best advice she could think of I suppose) at the local school public speaking competition this year – OMG! Imagining your audience naked won’t work, so please don’t do it!

There is no single magic formula or shortcut that is a panacea for a lack of confidence when presenting. If you feel you are lacking in confidence, let me tempt you towards increasing confidence by briefly touching on some of the tips for developing more confidence when presenting. It’s time to consider a change of approach. Begin by writing a slogan in big letters: 

IT’S NOT ABOUT ME. IT’S ALL ABOUT THE AUDIENCE!

And then try the following tips:

1. Analyse your audience

2. Structure your message

3. Do a deep breathing exercise.

4. Relax your muscles

5. Focus fully on the audience

6. Use the power of your mind

7. Get feedback

 

Taking steps to eliminate your limiting beliefs, being yourself, and actively seeking positive feedback is also important. You will also better manage presentation nerves if you understand your audience, prepare thoroughly, rehearse, warm up your mind, voice and body, and connect with your audience by extending the self and using what is known as ‘whites of the eyes’ eye contact.

 

For more information on how to do all these things and present at work with confidence, clarity and charisma please consider attending one of my 2-day Persuasive Presentation Skills courses

This article is an extract from Michelle’s best-selling, internationally published book called: How to Present: the ultimate guide to presenting live and online (Wiley)

 

“There is no other book like this on the market. Whether you are climbing the corporate ladder, a leader of people or a self-made entrepreneur, presentation skills are an essential capability for your success. How to Present will take you step-by-step through the formulas, tips and techniques for successful presenting.”

Brenton Smith, President and GM, BMC Software Asia Pacific & Japan

 

Learn to speak confidently, clearly and with influence

– Do you want to showcase your knowledge, influence people and accelerate your career?

– Do you want to engage and persuade your peers?

– Do you want your presentations to achieve results?

 

In How to Present, presentation skills expert Michelle Bowden shares her internationally proven system for exceptional presenting, from establishing your goals, to structuring your message, to captivating your audience. This second edition is fully updated with all new strategies for presenting in online and hybrid settings.

 

Whether you’re speaking to one person or thousands, in person or online, this is the essential guide to becoming an outstanding presenter who is memorable for all the right reasons!

Michelle Bowden smiling and holding her best-selling, internationally published book called How to Present: the ultimate guide to presenting live and online (Wiley)

© 2024 MICHELLE BOWDEN is an authority on persuasive presenting in business. She’s run her Persuasive Presentation Skills Masterclass over 995 times for more than 13,000 people over the past 25 years and her name is a synonym for ‘presentation skills’ in Australia. She’s a multi-million-dollar pitch coach to her client list that reads like a who’s who of international business: banking and finance, IT, pharmaceutical, retail, telecommunications plus many more. Michelle is the creator of the Persuasion Smart Profile®, a world-first psychological assessment tool that reports on your persuasive strengths and weaknesses at work, the best-selling internationally published author of How to Present: the ultimate guide to presenting live and online (Wiley) and her new book is called How to Persuade: the skills you need to get what you want (Wiley).

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